Feeling the
brightly colored gold chain between my fingers, its deep colour and brilliance
amazing me, it suddenly occurred to me that I’d never received many gift from my
father. The
only vague memories I have are of myself as a six or seven year old eagerly
opening Christmas presents laid out under the Christmas tree on cold Christmas
mornings once we’d come home from church. I would enthusiastically rip off the
wrapping paper to find a doll dressed in pink whose eyes opened and closed,
or a little plastic doll house, too young to bother which one of my
parents has chosen it for me. My father died a few months after I turned
nine, exactly a week before Christmas and so the gifts I received from him
never went beyond dolls, and doll houses or the occasional paperback version of
Alibaba and The Forty Thieves. A book he would read to me on evenings after he’d
come back from work.
The gold chain
I now wore against my neck was bought by my father for my mother from Tehran. I can imagine him
standing in the jewellery shop closely studying what he’d buy, silently imagining
what would look best on his wife and finally choosing the one that he decided
would stand out. From the chain hung a pendent which looked more like a coin from some period back in time. On one end was the head of a man
who I guess was an Iranian political figure, and on the other end was a lion
beneath which something was inscribed in Arabic. This, I guess must have
convinced my father would draw a lot of questions and gasps of admiration each
time my mother would wear it, making her feel special; as if she had
a little piece of history nestling against her neck.
I hate to
admit it but I’ve always been mildly envious of my mother, not because she
received gifts from my father but because she had the privilege of knowing and
loving him for longer than I did. She knew him first as a friend, then a lover,
and then a husband. Their relationship spanning over two decades; mine and
his not even completing one. She holds memories of him in her heart sealed and
so secure that I may never even be able to touch its fringes. Her recollections
of him are bright and clear like the sun sparkling on a stream of cool, clear
water. On the other hand my memories of my father seem shrouded in mist, most of them vivid and clear, yet a few seeping out of my memory gradually and gently. I remember him reading to me,
his large liquid green eyes gently lingering over the page, patient with me
each time I interrupted to ask him what a new word meant. While he read my
eyes would be fixed on him, large with wonder and amazement, imagining Alibaba in
a cave full of gold and precious jewels.
I have
memories of the endless hours we spent in bookshops in London , my love to read as intense as his; my
mother abandoning us to go shopping. I remember myself sprawled out on a
thickly carpeted floor in a bookshop, lost in a picture storybook
while my father sat on one of the couches opposite me browsing through a paper
back he’d picked off the shelf. I recollect walking up to him and peeping into
the book he was reading and asking him how he could
read a book without any pictures. I recall how he instantly began laughing, his
lined, grave face immediately looking younger and telling me that once I’d grow
up even I’d enjoy reading books without any pictures. I remember holding his
finger as we walked through museums and churches in Rome , a camera dangling from his wrist as he
pointed out the elaborate and intricate engravings on the high arched domes and
ceilings; so emblematic of Roman architecture. I don’t remember him taking any
pictures, but clearly recall him encouraging me to absorb the experience and
craft a mental picture so I had something priceless to treasure all my life.
It is true, I never received many gifts from my father. Not
for my eighteenth birthday, not when I graduated, and not when I got my first
job. But today when I look at his black and white photograph tucked away in my wallet, I see more than a
serious looking man in a grey suit. I see a laughing man who
loved to read and travel , who gave me his name and his features who held me in
his arms as a baby. A man who taught me how to eat with a knife and fork, and how to
cross the road. And today I realize that these memories are the greatest gifts he
could have ever given me. Gifts that are intangible and timeless, something that
is unbreakable, that will never go out of fashion, something I’ll never get
bored of and unlike the clothes that I wore as a child I’ll never grow out of.
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